This isn't a reason *not* to grade skip, but it is something we've encountered with our ds (he's subject-accelerated multiple grades) - simply moving up isn't the ideal solution *if* the classes you're moving up into are still not HG-level (pace/depth) classes - ds gets bored in the ahead-of-level classes he takes. So - in other words, whether or not you skip, it's still a possibility you might need to advocate for or fin something different for your child.
I wouldn't worry about what other parents think - they aren't parenting your child. I also (this is just me) wouldn't really talk about it to other parents, unless they are parenting a child in a similar situation.
I do think it's worth listening to what teachers have to say - if they are teachers who've taught your child, and of course try to get a feeling whether they are anti-skip in general or if they see something in your child that they see as a potential warning flag saying not to skip.
Reasons not to skip? We didn't skip - and we're in middle school and glad we didn't - but that's because of who our child is - he really doesn't want to be with older kids at this point in his life, and we've been able to cobble together a different approach to providing him with intellectual challenge - not the best solution, but it's worked out ok. I don't know how well it's all going to work in high school though, because he really needs to be in college then - and he's most definitely not ready to actually *be* in college - if anything, he's a kid who probably would prefer to stick close to home when he's 18 at a local college before he's really ready emotionally to move on. OTOH, I'm just guessing about that! And that's the tough part (imo) about knowing what to do re skips when your child is so very young - you can't really know what middle school / puberty / etc is going to be like until you're a lot closer to it.
And... I'll just throw this out there as a reason not to skip - a selfish parent's point of view. I don't want my kids leaving home for college one minute sooner than they would otherwise have left.. I am going to miss them so much.
So - those are the reasons we chose not to push for a grade skip - and to be honest, I wondered more than a few times in elementary if it wasn't the wrong decision. In middle school, I'm glad we didn't. High school - I have no clue what we'll do. I expect we'd have landed in the same place with high school if we'd skipped too... so who knows.
And to be clear - I'm not anti-skip at all, I'm actually in favor of it. Just putting a few thoughts out there from one family re why we didn't skip.
Best wishes,
polarbear
