also would say that you must listen to your child.
What the school says probably sounds reasonable to you because it is...but the school is saying these things based on their experience with the vast majority of their students, who fall into a more typical range.
The "problem" with the gifties on the higher scales is the speed in which they learn, and it's part of them. We listened to DD and tried to make changes, she's in private now and already needs adjustments but they're super-focused on her challenges (mainly writing) and when she's clearly bored they say their curricululm is fine, and she just needs to deal with it to build character...the usual thing.
I think the earlier you start listening to your child saying this stuff the better (and it's good he's telling you, not making you guess!)
I loved how you described the academic pace as "painfully gentle and slow" it does cause pain for the gifties!
