To recap - my son just turned 7 and is a first grader in a Montessori. We had him privately tested last summer - WISC IV GAI was 129 but his scores were so scattered that they said the scores weren't really meaningful (a lot of not interpretable). His processing speed is abysmal (9th percentile on coding subtest) but matrix reasoning was 99.9. His WJ-III score was 143 and closer to what I think his IQ really is - he scored 98-99+ in many of the other subtests. Any tests that were timed were not as good, I noticed. We have not had him evaluated for ADHD or anything else.
Anyway, his teacher did decide to move him up with the 3rd graders early in the school year for most lessons including reading and math (even though I think he can do even more than that in some cases). Well, I've had many discussions with her in the hallway about DS and how he just not working well in class, talking to the other kids, generally wasting time and sometimes being rude (or what she perceives as being rude). He even had to sit out in the library with a teacher last week to work on his stuff and he couldn't even stay on task then! Sometimes he says he doesn't like school and all he does is work, work, work. He says he gets bored but the teacher wants him to finish all his assignments before he can move to other stuff.
This kid is not generally motivated to achieve anyway - he will spend hours on a new interest at home but whines about schoolwork that should be a no brainer. So the teacher wants to meet again formally next week and I'm not sure what I should ask her to do for him. I can tell my son 100 times to pay attention and finish his work but he clearly has executive functioning issues. She already has "work plans" for all the kids so they know what they are supposed to do doing the week and cross things off as they go. I thought that would help DS but he dislikes the work plans because well, they make him work LOL He can't prioritize time or tasks and gets distracted easily.
Any thoughts on how I can help improve this situation? Even if she did give him more challenging work, I fear he would fight it anyway because he would perceive it as "too hard" or it would "take too long" (that is his big thing - everything "takes too long" in his world!)
