Thank you all for your comments. I met with her teacher today. I told her about that my dd might be a little depressed and gave a few examples of what we see. Her response was that she would have had no idea had I not mentioned it. Really? Frustrating because she obviously knows little about gifted education that she is supposed to be a specialist in.
We are headed to a private school next week. Classes are smaller, school as a whole is smaller so undoubtedly she would get more needed attention.
Such tough decisions!