Our DD had her first crush at 4-5. DW had been doing some babysitting as a way to earn some extra money and still be full-time engaged with DD, and this boy was one they saw regularly. From all accounts (I never met him) he's very nice, polite, and they played together spectacularly well.
Then they both started school, so there was no reason for them to see each other anymore, but they did come together from time to time for birthday parties and whatnot. At one particular such gathering, the boy was overheard to say to another kid, "I'm sorry, I'm not allowed to play with anyone else," while looking back at my expectant DD. Oh. My. What has she done to him?
By first grade his name wasn't coming up anymore, and one day my DD was expounding on a relationship at school that she thought was totally gross. DW and I are listening her describe their activities, which included kissing of some sort, and we're thinking this is all just part of the age-appropriate "boys are icky" reaction. But as the conversation evolves, it becomes apparent that her primary objection is that the boy involved is someone she finds particularly unattractive, so why this girl would be kissing on someone that ugly, she can't fathom.
So I offer, "What if this was B?", referring to her crush from 4-5.
"Oh. Well, that I could understand."
Yikes.
