Can you identify his unmet needs for yourself in list form (it sounds like you already have a mental list in progress)?
Then prioritize them by how well you're able to meet them using another method, or 'rate' how well you're meeting them.
I have found that the 'ratings' system will frequently be able to capture more information there since it can include ideas about what your family's values are, what your child's values/strengths/weaknesses are, and how important it is in that framework to work on "weaknesses" versus "exercising strengths."
Then it becomes easier to identify the most bang for the buck, so to speak.
If, for example,
"physical, age-appropriate activities" gets a "2/10" in the "how well met" column, and a "8/10" in the "relative importance" column, then that becomes a pretty high overall priority.
If both things are 2/10, though, something else may jump ahead of it.
If you can think of OTHER ways of meeting those high priority needs, then more unique opportunities may jump ahead, too. I might be tempted to add a third column in my decision grid to reflect "DIFFICULTY--parental ABILITY to meet this need."
Does this help?
