Good luck Debbie,
I would go in with a list of your "must haves" and your "negotiables." It sounds crazy, but ask for about twice what you want. It's just human nature. As I see it, the biggest hurdle is getting the teachers to give up making him do age-level Math. Perhaps you can draw up a release excusing them for evaluating him in Math. Honestly - a teacher friend of mine said: "But how would I grade a kid like that?"
I would also have an alternative plan availible in case you don't get your "musts." All of us have the tendency to want to "get along" and "be liked." It's much easier to think clearly in advance of the meeting than during it.
Best Wishes,
Trin
