He said that parents shouldn't be aware of their children's homework after 3rd grade unless it's not done.
Well, that's easy enough -- if I am not aware of my son's homework, it's not done!
This week I have uncovered some very maladaptive strategies he has been using involving lying and deception in order to be "done" quicker that have risen up and bitten him. Sigh. Another strategy he has developed this year is to drag his feet on everything from brushing his teeth to packing his backpack as a sign of protest so that we all share his frustration with school and mornings are a nightmare. However, disasters can be teachable moments. My son is completely set on doing it his way until the bottom falls out.
All this to say that the psych is just wrong about homework and you're not alone in your struggle with an older kid. Hang in there!
Yes, this is my house! I push, and I pull, and I grit my teeth and try not to scream, but sometimes I hit a point where I just tell him, ok, tell your teacher tomorrow that you didn't want to do your homework. Go to bed. And then he drags his feet through going to bed, and he drags his feet in the morning until I drag his feet out of bed and he falls on his face.
That shrink obviously feels that he's on the wrong end of the $50,000 a year difference, but he doesn't seem to realize it's because he only knows one trick. I would ignore him, and quickly.
