I agree with st. pauli girl.
When our eldest was about to start school, we thought that school would be a wonderful place where kids would learn wonderful stuff from people who understood that different kids learn at different rates. After all, they had degrees in this stuff, right?
Oh, how wrong we were. When I told the pre-K teacher that DS could read, she looked at me like I was speaking an obscure dead dialect from the planet Zetak. And thus began our adventures in finding appropriate learning environments for our kids. The kid wasn't even allowed to go to across the hall to the kindergarten to read SRA cards. Somehow that would have been a violation of the laws of physics.
My advice: do not worry about being "that kind of parent" and don't worry that people will think badly of you for advocating for your child. It's more important to stand up for what your child needs, politely but firmly.
