They do complain that he only wants to socalize with the adults because they don't have the time to spend with him. Things have to be done in groups. I just want to make sure he gets a challenging education.
Try to keep in mind that this is just one daycare experience and that your ds is still quite young. Some daycares are set up such that things are done in groups, others are set up differently. Also try not to worry about whether or not he'll get a challenging education at this point - just focus on getting him into a setting where he's nurtured and loved and go from there. You can feed his need for learning more reading (or whatever) at home, but at 2.5 I wouldn't anticipate you'll find many organized schools that will be hugely into academics... and again, I'm probably an outlier on this, but jmo that's ok. Sometimes we look at learning ABCs, how to read, etc as easy quantifiers of giftedness at early ages, but exposure to ideas, new knowledge that's not so easily quantifiable, just being able to experience a lot of different things, experience life, experience different people - those are all things that gifted kids soak up like sponges too
Evemomma, I understand what you are saying about it being hard to really tell whether Aspergers is present or not at age 2. I have been worried about it because he does have the characteristics of being interested in a particular area obsessively.
I think it's good you've got a neuropsych evaluation lined up - whether or not you find out there's a challenge or everything is totally typical or he's PG or whatever, it will give you insight into who he is and what his needs are. The neuropsych might have suggestions for the type of daycare/preschool area in your area that would be a good fit.
Back to daycare, if you do some digging you might find an early preschool in your area. When my kids were little, most preschools didn't start until 3 but we found a Montessori that started at 18 months that my dds both attended. It wasn't a straight "learn the ABCs and how to read" type preschool but it was much more learning-oriented than a daycare situation.
I also wanted to add - my EG ds had a few behaviors at 2-4 that looked like behaviors that are included on lists for potential signs of ASD - he lined up his cars (and his Halloween candy lol)... he never engaged in imaginary play. He still doesn't engage well in imaginary play type exercises - it's just not who he is. His brain is wired to be an engineer. Sorting out what's personality vs what's a symptom of something that's a challenge is really difficult when children are so young. You're doing absolutely the best thing you can do for your ds - seeing the neuropsych, asking for advice from others, paying close attention. No matter what, your ds is going to be fine with you as his mom!
Best wishes,
polarbear
