Geesh. That director doesn't deserve to be around children. Homeschooling may be the perfect solution. I would check out the Well Trained Mind forums for ideas (they have somewhat of a fundamentalist Christian bias there in my opinion, but you can look past it to get useful info).
I don't know what the homeschooling requirements are in your state, but I would make it a top priority to relax your son about math and make it completely fun. Ed Zaccaro Challenge Math, Life of Fred, and similar resources may help. ALEKS or something else that lets him go at his own pace may build confidence. For math I have a soft spot for Singapore Math, and they have some decent extra challenging word problems available that your son might like. Perhaps he would enjoy exploring computer programming or something similar where math skills would figure in some of the time. Please keep us updated on your choices and progress with him.
