La Texican...
My experience is people will judge parenting no matter what: too lax = indifferent, too strict = totalitarian, too cuddly = indulgent, too loving = enmeshed.
Kids are not the just the sum of their parenting...thankfully (for my kids anyway).
Do what seems right for your kids and let the judgements roll right off.
Exactly. Your parenting practices are never going to get everyone's approval. Everyone is coming from different places. You can only do what you feel right for your child. Also, when someone does something different with their child, or recommends a different path than you have chosen, I don't think it is necessarily judgement on you. If I came off that way I sincerely apologize. Nobody has all the answers. There is no right and wrong. If there was, we'd all be doing the same thing. We are all just trying our best.
La Tex-- It sounds like you are now homeschooling a very bright 4.5-year-old. No worries, mate.
