ADHD symptoms display themselves in multiple environments. The DSM criteria state innattentive/disorganized/impulsive/hyperactive (or the first two only for innattentive type) must be present in at least three settings. These behaviors must also have surfaced before age 5.
I want to second what Evemomma pointed out (above). When our ds was initially diagnosed with ADHD during his first neuropsych eval at the end of 2nd grade, he had symptoms commonly associated with ADHD but they were *only* present in the classroom or when he was faced with a task he couldn't perform at home. The home behaviors took awhile to understand, simply because we hadn't realized until that time that he had dyspraxia and dysgraphia. The other clue for us to was that ds had none of these behaviors present until he was in school, which is the first time he was in a situation where he was expected to be able to write.
Our neuropsych has a chart that shows the overlap between three types of diagnoses that children can receive - the ASD spectrum, ADHD, and another type which I can't remember the name of (but it's where our ds is, where dyspraxia comes in)... all three of the circles for each domain overlap in a big way - behaviors that are seen in one place can also be present with a different diagnosis - and sometimes it takes time (maybe years) observing and multiple professionals to really understand what's going on.
In any event, whether your ds has ADHD or doesn't, I'm guessing that his dysgraphia is causing him a lot of frustration as well as (perhaps) the difference in his PRI vs VIQ abilities. What most of us find with our 2e kids is that we take what we learn through evaluations, start accommodating or remediating one step at a time, that helps with frustrations in one area so then you can begin to see your child a little more clearly and you take on the next step. Not sure that makes sense! Basically it's a journey that you take one step at a time, and you're off to a good start with the information you have so far!
Best wishes,
polarbear
