6- she really wants to be friends with a few of them.
This isn't the same as liking her friends, sadly. Wanting to be friends is, to my mind, like wanting the the coolest cell phone. Humans enjoy social status. Then there is wanting the be included, again a normal drive. Actually enjoying the company of a potential friend, though, that's a different story, yes?
If you told me that she get's frustrated with agemates but plays very interactivly and loves spending time with older kids, I'd think, 'oh typical gifted kid'
But telling me that she parallel plays, expects the other kids to join her particular style of play, sort of makes me think of other sorts of social difficulties. MisDiagnosis and Dual Diagnosis is a good book to help you sort out your thoughts.
Diangosing any social difficulty in girls is so much more challenging. Girls tend to be less noisy about their deficiencies than boys. ((shrug)) And there is that reality that 100 doctors might have 100 individual opinions.
Best Wishes,
Grinity
