jack'smom,
I think that you are likely to find that many homeschooled kids have at least one exceptionality, whether giftedness, AS, ADHD, dysgraphia or dyslexia, anxiety, or some other trait that makes fitting in with an ordinary age-level class difficult...not because there is anything about the homeschooling environment that makes kids have problems fitting in, but because, frankly, homeschooling is a PITA and most families won't do it without some really pressing impetus, like the fact that their kid finds it impossible to fit in for reasons that they can't help and that have nothing to do with how they were raised...or the parents have a strong distrust of the integrity of the local schools (which may or may not be justified.)
Many, many, many kids with Asperger's Syndrome are homeschooled in order to provide a learning environment that is not overwhelming from a sensory perspective, and to protect the child from the really brutal bullying that such children frequently encounter in schools.
My hunch is that, had you ever met him, my PG/AS/NVLD child would have come across as odd and socially at least a bit awkward regardless of whether or not we had homeschooled him.
