my personal experience would be to find another preschool, or even a private school that will do kindergarden level work. twice now, my younger daughter has "aged out" of a daycare/preschool. Both times, when she became the oldest child, she would regress, behaviorally. Her bday is March, btw, so no where NEAR the cutoff. She would be 5 1/2 on the first day of kinder...this fall, when the preschool tuition was going up again, I thought "Maybe I can afford some private school and get her into kindergarden". She goes to a Christian school that is really wonderful...they have a "pre K" for kids who will meet the cutoff and a kinder (mix of 4 and 5yos) and they use the state kinder standards and she is meeting them beautifully. It will be up to us if we want to put her in kinder or let her test for first (we will be going for first) and her teacher says she will be ready.
It bothers me that, even though they are willing to "let him try", they are obviously waiting for him to mess up, so they can say I told you so. I wouldn't want my child in that environment.
fwiw-I also homeschool our older (8yo) DD now because her former school had labeled her a behavior problem and refused to do ANYTHING until her behavior improved. Said "bad" behavior was usually reading under the desk or not completing assignments. When if became apparent to me that they didn't really WANT to help her, we were OUT OF THERE, lol! Now I get mad when people tell me what MY kid HAS to do...I wouldn't leave my child in an atmosphere where they weren't respected.
