Tough call. I had a grade acceleration conference where the school had an institutional notion that it only ends badly, and the more we argued for acceleration, the more they reached for wholly irrelevant criticisms of my kid as reasons for rejecting it. I would not have wanted her in the room to hear that. Also, it would be all too easy for people to start speaking about her in the third-person invisible, which would only compound the rudeness for her.
But, if she's saying she wants to be there, I think she should have that right. She's the topic of the conversation, after all.
