I think you can't ever go wrong doing a visit to 'build relationship' with the teacher. Consider if she were your new college roomate (perhaps prison roomate is a better analogy) - you would want to spend time listening to her and getting to know what makes her excited and what makes her frustrated - what inspires her and what she doesn't have any attention for. Listen for use of certian analogies, or sensory systems - does this teacher 'see your point' or 'hear what you are saying' or 'get you?' - try answering in kind. Seems hoaky but can't hurt. This will help you prep your DD for how best to win teacher's heart. You don't have to say anything about DD - just demonstrating that you can listen well, and be supportive of the teacher will go a long way.
I you want to share - a little - try and come up with an 'elevator speech' that frames your dd's impatients and exactitude in a positive light with a little story- something like -
"Well, i am a little worried about X, because she is so Y (positive quality) that she goes over board and did Z, which irritated people because they didn't know where she was coming from."
If you want to share even more, then bring in the writing samples and math worksheets in her own handwriting, and say: "Do you mind taking a look at these - it's embarassing, but she does these for fun sometimes, I think it might be a bit unusual....but I hope not. What do you think?"
I think that will be enough. I agree, no 'G' word. It's always better for the teacher to 'discover' the difference for herself - but one does have to lead the horse to water, and remember that no one can make her drink.
(I use prayer and deep breathing for the 'make her drink' problems in life, but no idea in the world if it actually helps or just keeps me occupied.)
Love and More Love,
Grinity
