5) Remember that time with you is the most reinforcing thing in the world. If needed, you can pretend to be intensely interested in an activity and ignore her while you do it until she joins you. Figure out what the other reinforcers are for her - gifties often have an unusual sense of what they will work for.
This is what we've noticed with Mr W. If its something we want to get him to do and do it a lot, we do it with him. We've also worked on positive self talk.
It got kind of funny this weekend when we went bowling. Mr W weighs just over 30 pounds but HAD to carry the bowling ball by himself. He'd pick it up in both hands and shuffle to the lanes, saying, "Its big and its heavy and I can do it." over and over until he got it released. He did it 50 times in two hours.
LOL
Lately he has taken to praising us, "You can do it Daddy!"
We've also noticed a big change in him now that he is in with kids 1-2 years older than he is. He has to work a bit harder to keep up and has peers he can interact with and he has to step up to the plate every day to compete with them.
For example, in the past, he would get upset when other kids would bump into him at the playground or grab his stuff. Now he bumps right back and grabs his stuff back without a peep.
