I don't know if you child is gifted, heck I don't even know if mine are! I would say, however that you are dealing with a lot of the same issues that I did, and that those issues led me to this forum when my eldest was 3. I have found the information, advice and help here to be very useful. My oldest son was so intense and exhausting, and most people just didn't get it.
She isn't an easy baby and stays up for days with short naps and then finally crashes for 5 or 6 hour nap some days. We had to endlessly walk around with her in sitting position even right after birth and show her things so she wouldn't cry, though she was dairy intolerant and I didn't figure it out right away.
This sounds a lot like my oldest and youngest children. I remember in the morning I would push my DS's bassinette to the fishtank, where he would watch the fish while I sprinted to the bedroom, threw on some clothes and sprinted back. By then he would be bored of the fish and start screaming!
I would say if you like it here and find it helpful, stay around. There are lovely people here.
And, if you haven't already, investigate babywearing, it was a sanity-saver for me!
