It sounds terrible, but on a very personal level I sort of don't want this to be the solution. I am much happier at work, and that break does make me a better mother than when I am home all day and trying to work at night. E. is incredibly intense to parent - the level is pretty close to constantly running a seminar group for not quite up to scratch 1st yr. university students, but less predictable in direction. In comparison, a day at work is a breeze. Does this make me worst mother of the week? I truly admire those who do home-school successfully as you do. I'll go and soul search.
An OT might use a program such as 'Handwriting without Tears' - or OT was great with helping DS14 with his gross motor (he wouldn't play sports at first, so the OT was very helpful) but dismissed my concerned about his pencil grip, etc. Other OTs would be much more helpful.
You have to shop around.
Now let's talk about this misconception you may have that to be a 'good' mother or an 'non-terrible mother' you must be willing to give up everything for your child's needs.
Your daughter is a member of your family. Yes, she is a vulnerable member and her needs may count ahead of other people's needs for a while, but she isn't the most important member of the family, or the only family member with needs.
Work provides cash, security, independence, and appreciation - children might or might not provide appreciation spontaneously, but it too thin for many people to rely on!
You have to find a solution that balances the needs of all the people in the family in a workable way. Pretending that you can give everything isn't going to make it so. I know a lot of very active, PIA kids with similar IQ scores to yours who have made it work with a public school system. But it takes some luck, and some time, and it doesn't always work. Keep looking for the homeschool network, it's probably out there. Look for private school (with French as a Primary language?) that might give financial aid. Get your psychologist to talk to the school board about why skipping is a nescessity in this particular instance. Consider partial day homeschooling.
It sounds to me like you are on the right track with the soul searching. No easy answers, sadly, but at least you know what you are dealing with - a very very unusually gifted girl who needs academic accomidation just as much as a child with special educational needs from the learning difficulty end of the graph.
Love and More Love,
Grinity
