I found that the more I read on gifted children and how they compare with "typical" children, the more confused I became as to whether or not to send ds to preschool at all!
Finally, I decided that because he isn't going to learn anything at
any preschool, I would concentrate on finding one that was heavily into play. We enrolled him in a church preschool that offers "bring your bike" day, cooking in the church kitchen, a great playground, and lots of field trips. The goal: To allow our only child opportunity to have fun with other kids. Like you, we live in a "blinking yellow light" town, and have to travel 45 minutes to get "face time" with kids his age.
The book,
Bringing Out The Best by Jacqulyn Saunders helped me make the decision to relax about the whole educational side of preschool, and just concentrate on finding one that best suited his
emotional needs.
Now for Kindergarten, we have located a charter that has blended age rooms. Each child has opportunity to interact with kids up to two grade levels higher than they, as well as be given work to challenge them...not be "stuck" in Kindergarten level work. That may be an option for you. For us, it helped relieve the anxiety of whether or not to do early Kinder enrollment, since ds is definitely
not mature for his age!
If your son is at all like mine, he'll pick up on your anxiousness about his gifted behavior, so the sooner your mind is eased, the better! Good luck!
