Thanks Grinity. Unfortunately we have come to the conclusion that our psychologist is a bit hopeless. We have DD booked in to be reassessed by a gifted specialist but couldn't get her in until October. And I have found a selective mutism specialist but am still waiting for a call back from them. So I don't really have anyone professional I feel I can call on to advocate for us right now.
Realistically I think that DD did meet the criteria for selective mutism but that she is getting over it / improving. Which on the one hand means that we are probably addressing it the right way, but on the other means she does have a deep seated tendency to social anxiety. Which is difficult for us to understand because we have always thought of her as such a social and sunny little person. We think of her as friendly, loud, confident and boisterous. Preschool do not, they see cautious and lacking confidence but have only thought to tell us this now (she's been there nearly 2 years), previously we have just had "My she's independent and likes to do her own thing".
After her first term in the 3yr old program the teacher asked us if she had any speech problems because they had never really heard her speak to them (though I think she spoke to the children)and so could not give an assessment of her speech along with the rest of her report. We then instigated daily show and tell and that got her talking to the teachers over the course of the second term. Because she does talk to them now, and probably at least to a level that other children do, they think she is "fine" but "normal" as they don't the benefit of hearing her deeper thoughts. The question is, will school be any different in that regard. I don't know that it will but I know that she loves a new environment and will learn new and interesting things from being somewhere new...
I just wish I had booked her in to the OT earlier so that we had some outside perspective sooner.
