If we relate this back to high school and girls, in particular - this is the time when society says they are supposed to be dating, learning the social norms of life as an adult female (whether or not you agree with them or even plan on adhering to them). They are supposed to be getting giggly about going to the prom or dating the football star or failing the dreaded class of choice that particular year. It is NOT the time when they are supposed to be studying and learning and using their minds to better themselves or finding their dream or just plain being happy with who they are and what they want to do.
I have read this post a couple of times, so I think I understand what you've meant. And I think you've captured something. For our gifted children-especially our girls, it really is going against the grain of society (not just the culture of high school) to be a serious scholar in high school. So either you ARE that scholar, and stick-out (unless you are blessedly lucky and have found a few others as serious as yourself) or you hide the intellectual side of yourself, and still never fit-in because you can't hide it, it's in every twitch of your synapses.
