Would you make your child change schools if you thought it was the best thing? any advise would be appreciated.
I think that in the end, the parents have to be the ones to make the final call. Yes - I do give my DS13 more imput in his educational options then any 13 year old in our how town, but I think it is 'leaving him out to dry' to let him have the final say.
My mom used to tell a great story about her own childhood:
Every year, my Grandmother would ask her, "Do you want to go to summer camp?"
My mom would say "no" and she wouldn't go.
After many years, my mom said "Yes" and had a wonderful time. She came home very upset, and said:
"Mom, Summer Camp is great! WHY didn't you MAKE me go?"
"Well you said that you didn't want to go."
"Mom, how could you listen to ME. I'M JUST A KID!!!!"
If that isn't outward perfectionism at work, I don't know what is!
When my DS13 gets bossy and critical of the job I'm doing raising him, it helps me to see that in our family, this is a multi-generational thing. There are thinks that we truly can't know. I would make the final call EVEN if I wasn't sure the alternative was right - just based on knowing that the status quo is definitely wrong. I'm just looking for the 'least worst' option.
Love and More Love,
Grinity