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Kriston:

Still debating the why. At first I concluded that she is not getting mad because 'I' didn't fulfill her requirements because throughout the rest of the day our relationship is well defined. I am not the type of mom that gives in to demands. Now I really think it is because I don't give in to the demands throughout the rest of the time that she has focused into this obsession at nap/night time. (If that makes sense) As for the other possibilities you brought up: I don't get that something 'bad' will happen to her but it is possible that her actions fall under the MUST be done but I still think it is too early to classify this under that. I still think we are under a fun activity that got mommy to do my bidding and now it has turned into this obsession which brings me back to the 1st possibility.

I have asked her before about why she has to have mommy do all of the actions but never really got past the orders ... she can be very stubborn. If she doesn't want to talk about something she absolutely won't. She will totally ignore us. But I am going to ask her again tomorrow when not in the middle of doing the actions and see what she says.

It may also mean that she's not sure why, and that's okay. "Because I want it that way" is the safe answer here, I think, and it sounds like that's what's going on.

FWIW, the more you say about it, the more normal it sounds to me. I just didn't want to dismiss it out of hand as harmless, you know?

But it sounds to me like a very normal--maybe even typical!--control issue for a GT 3yo. I wouldn't recommend making a big deal of it. Then it just becomes more of a battleground for her to stand firm about. I don't think I'd even recommend that you ask her about it further. Unless it scares her, I'd say accept what you con tolerate and then no more, but don't make anything of it with her.

Where shall I send my bill for the utterly amateur psych consult? LOL!

I recently changed my cyber address and the mail hasn't caught up. Darn!

After reading everyone's opinions on the topic and evaluating the situation tonight; I am even more certain that I am dealing with another quirky habit. I even tested her tonight, explaining that I would only do one thing and allowing her to choose the one and she didn't pitch the fit I expected.

Thank you all for the opinions b/c as I said ... talking to other moms with kids the same age I was constantly getting the 'how strange' comments but I think the strange element really highlights the gifted factor which seems to be backed by the reassuring comments of all of you.