Gifted Issues Discussion homepage Forums Parenting and Advocacy When to give up and just go private?

We have tried quite unsuccessfully to advocate for acceleration with the public board. I have gone up the chain and my request is falling on deaf ears. Never have they responded with any child-specific comments. Rather, I've just been shut down period.

How do you know when to give up and just go with the private option? We are strong public system supporters but I am quite jaded by the fact that they won't even consider (or give the appearance of willingness to consider) our requests.

We have very strong reasons for request - early birth date, psycho-ed report, strong academic performance.

IMO, when you are tired of dealing with it and have a viable alternative, that's when you move on to option B. If the other party refuses to listen to reason, there's really not much point in continuing.

That said, thoroughly check out the private school's willingness and ability to accommodate before signing a contract. We've been at three private schools, two have been good/very good, one was horribly rigid/downright mean.

You may have read this elsewhere in the forums, but in case you have not... when it comes to acceleration, there are excellent resources at the website of Acceleration Institute, which includes
- A Nation Deceived,
- A Nation Empowered,
- Iowa Acceleration Scale (IAS), reviewed on Hoagies Gifted Education Page here.

These may provide both research and a process, with which to approach the school.

What type of acceleration are you seeking? Whole grade acceleration? Single subject acceleration?

It sounds like you've probably hit the point to give up with your current school district.

Investigate your private options - some are great and some not so much. Also, if this is possible, look into your neighboring school districts. We've found completely different attitudes to acceleration simply by crossing an arbitrarily drawn line on a map.

Best of luck,
--S.F.

1. when you think that your child's future, intellectual growth and education are affected
2. when you think that you have better things to do with your time than advocacy (as in a job situation that will not allow you to spend time on gifted advocacy)
3. you live in an area where there are excellent private schools as well as excellent after schooling opportunities
4. when you are sure that the best the school district could potentially offer will not come close to what your child needs in terms of acceleration or instruction.
5. when you feel that your child is wasting his time every day by being physically present in a classroom because he is made to do it and he knows more than what he is "supposed" to know at that grade level.
I reached all these points and decided to move on to private schools.

The first thing that I noticed is how much "more" the teachers are able and willing to do for a lower pay scale at the private school (e.g. yard duty, curbside drop off supervision, decorating classroom for festivals, running math bees and spelling bees, making their own photocopies, teaching without aides) - I am mentioning this because I spent a year of my personal time volunteering for these things at my PS where the teachers were whining about budget cuts and hence needing parental help for these things!

I got better response for my questions from private school, they accounted for every minute of the day that my son spent there (no wasting time at all), my son got "extras" that he could not have gotten in addition to the acceleration in curriculum (computer programming, music specialist, foreign language, sports specialist, character education, science labs etc). I am happy to not be dealing with PS anymore and spend more of time on my career related issues these days.

As Frog says, investigate your private school options - shadow their classrooms if you can. In our case, we made 3 moves before things clicked - but all the moves were progressively better for my DS.
Good luck.

I just wanted to wish best of luck on finding a good school. When public school option doesn't work out, a good private school can be way to go.

My older one (4th grader) is in public school (gifted program) and younger one (1s grader) in private school.

One major difference in our experience is that they listen to you much better in private school. They always try to come up with a solution.

When researching for private schools, make sure to share your concerns and your expectations. There are many good private schools, but as many as not so good ones.

We were hoping to have DD skip SK so she can go straight to grade one French Immersion. We just found out the other day a private school focused on gifted kids will take us.

I guess we are just a little uneasy to have to potentially commit a large sum of money for private school when we see a perfectly viable option down the street from us.

I considered getting nasty with the school board and taking them to court (not only would they not accelerate, they would not identify either saying they will only do it after age 8).

I don't know what else I can do? I sent a letter to the superintendent yesterday citing my reasons, complete with picture of my child on top to get her attention. I hope they at least make a good faith effort and consider MY CHILD instead of just saying it's not "age-appropriate" and slamming the door.

Have you check the state and local statutes as well as Rules & Regulations regarding acceleration and early entrance? Is your DD's early birthday within the exceptions provided? For instance, in our state, when the statutes gradually changed the birthday cut-off from December to September, it provided a small window of 15 to 30 days (don't remember exactly) for early entrance. Basically, the laws otherwise prohibited early entrance to a public school but did not specifically prohibit acceleration once the student completed first grade (I think) or so. Parents have been known to send their kids to private school for a couple of years and then try to transfer to public, assuming they could find a private that will allow early entrance.

Anyway, whether I would give up depends partly on whether the public board is following the law.

We are in Canada so the law is a bit different and doesn't provide for early entrance. While the Act is silent on acceleration, it really is up to the discretion of the school board and/or principal. It is just not "common practice" I have been told and they just refuse to consider the issue altogether.

As to whether they are following the law, I take issue with the fact that the board is refusing to identify giftedness until eight years of age. Under our laws, giftedness definition has no age stipulation and in fact there are other school boards that have recognized and identified gifted kids in the primary grades. So I could try to challenge that, if I have stamina...

If you choose to go to private until age 8, can you still request testing in public school at that time and make a switch if they provide a good option for you? Or does your DD attend to the school to be tested?

As Quantum2003 mentioned, going to private school and switching to public school when gifted program is available is very common scenario. That's our plan too. My son (1st grader) will be tested this year and if he is accepted into the gifted program, we will switch to public school.