Last year we had a substitute para who refused to scribe for DD. not quite sure what she thought she was doing there but refused to write anything. Told DD she was lazy and disrespectful for trying to get out of doing her own work and she wouldn't help her with that. DD got very upset and reported it. They had this woman apologize but still had her spend the rest of the day with DD. Later when DD needed a break - I think probably due to the anxiety of being with this woman - who did they have take a walk alone with her? You guessed it. The best I can tell she gave DD some whole guilt trip for reporting her, she needs this job, etc.
Yes, I remember that from your story. We've had very similar issues. The teachers are at times a problem but the paras are almost always a huge problem for my son. Last year's para was terrible she also would refuse to scribe for DS (DS said she would keep putting him off) and she would also put him down for needing the accommodation. It was actually very upsetting to hear. However, the teachers also set this dynamic up. Like Sweetie pointed out, teachers are saying to my son, "okay go find someone to scribe for you for this section." Then my son is in a position of walking around begging someone to help him which seems to often lead to an exasperated/snide/annoyed/sarcastic response of "seriously? you can't do this?" This would be less likely to happen if the teacher actually directed the para herself. And I'd be a little more sympathetic if this were not such a good school district and if they didn't have so much support. There are 20 kids in the class, there is the teacher, a special-ed teacher (I think in there b/c of my son's spec-ed category, but she works with all the students it seems), a student teacher, and two paraprofessionals. And, quite honestly, there is simply no need for the put-downs. None at all. Just no need to put a kid down for disability like that.