Ugh-- I so sympathize with you about the lack of cooperation from the child here.
I'm just straight (and not too pleasant, honestly) with my DD when she pulls this nonsense.
If you want to be treated like {placement} then you have a LONG way to go to step up and ACT like your peers. They organize their own work and time, and they don't have excuses. If you can't do that, then don't be surprised when they treat you as if you don't belong there-- because under those conditions, they're right.
She has to BE the same as her academic peers for a particular placement. That's the deal. More appropriate work-- but less age-appropriate expectations come as a package deal. We'll help her to develop skills that she needs for managing, but we won't do it for her.
