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Hello all. I've been lurking off and on for a while, but decided to jump out on that limb and introduce myself.

I am Canadian and a mother of three, a gifted 13 year old super high acheiver with anxiety, a gifted 11 year old who is lazy and unmotivated, and a very likely to be identified gifted 8 year old with wicked intensity problems.

So, we're having lots of fun over here.

I am always looking for ways to help my anxiety child chill and enjoy life, ways to motivate my underacheiving lazy bones who is super smart but no interest in doing more than the bare minimum, and of course, last but not least, a way for me not to lose my schmidt on my 8 going on 18 year old, who is like a little firecracker and could start exploding at any minute. Tears, anger, screaming, and yes, even hitting at times (as her poor brothers can attest to). It's really a work in progress, very slow progress, but we keep trying.

Anyway, stepping out from the shadows and looking forward to getting to know everyone better. Cheers!

The good news is that they do turn into marvelous grownups who can actually carry on an intelligent conversation, if you don't bury them in the back yard at some point between 10 and 18. I think I like my adult children better than pretty much any other adults I know, at this point, and not just because I have to.

Nice to meet you!!

LOL. Eldertree, I love it. (Particularly amusing since I happen to have all three of the above children in the form of my single 13yo DD... I--jokingly-- offered to "get Dad the shovel" yesterday during the height of the vector-induced full-drama-llama meltdown.)

We "tell Katie* to go home now" quite regularly. (* Katie here = Katie Ka-Boom... for examples, see YouTube and prepare to laugh if you have any experience with a teen who has OE's.)

When she's not being completely insane, I quite like the person that my daughter is becoming, even if I don't agree with her. So I believe that Eldertree's statements are true. I've seen glimmers of evidence.

Welcome! Always nice to see another Canuck!

I have an HG+ DD10 who is 2e and struggles with anxiety (getting much better, though!). She is the definition of lazy and unmotivated.,. by her own admission. DS4 is not identified as gifted yet. He struggles with emotional intensities and SPD. Just this morning, I had to drag him screaming from the drug store when he couldn't cope.

It is never dull, having kids like this!!

Welcome from another Canadian!

I have the lazy unmotivated variety (DS12, MG+, ADHD). DH has been away for a week and I pretty much lost it with my son last night. He just started middle school in an IB program, which I thought would get him working harder, but so far . . . well, not so much.

My new plan (since last night) is to let DS handle deciding how and when to do his school work and see what happens. He thinks that I am way too involved and controlling (and he is at least partly right about that) and I think he is way too laid back about keeping track of and doing his assignments. We are really like oil and water. I am a perfectionist, anxious and like to finish ahead of deadlines. My DS is the opposite. Anxiously awaiting DH's return so I have a live person to vent to . . .