Also, it's not at all unusual for perfectionists to give up rather than to risk failure. Perhaps this is what's up? If she doesn't really try, then she can't get it wrong and then feel stupid. If your whole self-concept is centered around never being wrong, then being challenged is not just a little uncomfortable, it's a threat to your entire self-image!
Regardless, as a recovering perfectionist who hates to be wrong and has a hard time if something doesn't come easily, I'd say she needs this challenge! Or one like it. And the sooner, the better!
My thoughts exactly including the part about me being perfectionist. Unfortunately DS5 is one too
Have you read Freeing Our Families from Perfectionism by T. Greenspon?
