First off, WELCOME! I can assure you that classroom behavior does not mean a child is NOT gifted! You should research gifted underachievement. YOu will be surprised by the wealth of information you will find that may just describe your son! I can tell you that I have one child ID'd as gifted, though there was no doubt in my mind since birth with that one. I have another DC that is the total opposite as far as being outwardly gifted. Has not been ID'd yet and is young, but I can tell you, that based on his behavior and personality, I won't be surprised if he never is. His drive is TOTALLY different. He doesn't like to read, hates to write, and hates to do anything school related. He has always been laid back and is not a performer. He learned to tie his shoes and I had no idea he knew how until one day he tied them shocking the socks off of me. I asked him how and when he knew how to tie his shoes and he replied, I've known for a long time, I've just never told anyone. His teacher has been caught by a few of these things too, telling me she was shocked when he did something but acted like he's done it forever. I told her he probably did and told her the shoe story. That's just the way he is. He will do it on HIS TIME, when he's ready. When he doesn't do it, doesn't mean he doesn't know how, just that he's not interested in doing THAT time and he may NEVER show you he knows how, because he doesn't obviously see a need in expressing that he can do something. My other child is the total opposite! SO.... like I said, just because he doesn't show it in the classroom, may just have a lot to do with his personality and also a BAD FIT in the classroom. If the school was questioning his scores, obviously they aren't very knowledgable about how gifted underachievement can run rampant in an inappropriate school fit!
