I can personally relate to your daughter. I am STILL like that, here is an example: I did this great life saving procedure on a dog and the person wanted to do a TV spot with me and the dog. I am very shy and said no. Well, my boss went and did the TV spot and although he didn't say he did the surgery, all our clients assumed he did and kept complimenting HIM on what a great job he did, blah, blah, blah. I was so mad/sad/jealous, but there was nothing I could do because I refused to do the spot.
My point of this story is that I don't know if you can change your daughter. Shy, non-competitive people are what we are. What is so funny, is that my son is not at ALL shy. I am so thrilled that he is the type of person who would jump at the chance to be on TV or do a spelling bee. If he were shy like me, I would encourage him to be more outgoing, because I think it has hampered me (like in the example story), but I don't know how effective it would be. Nan
