The difficulty is that I would guess a good 25-33% of the kids are not having their needs met - there is little/no differentiation and no programs or pullouts until 4th grade. So... I am sympathetic that there are some number of kids who could be doing higher level work, and am conflicted between sharing how to advocate and protecting what we have received. The school has not asked us to "not talk" so I can't really claim that, but I do see, bh14, how that would be one way to respond, and I think for most people that is the response I will give (I really didn't expect for people to know - we did prep son and he has handled well, but his math teachers really nipped it in the bud by just introducing him and saying the school wanted him in that class).
I think I am just feeling guilty that I am not being more forthright with people, since I could have used the help myself.
