Tracey,

Maybe your friend doesn't know what to say? I understand where you're coming from and that you don't want to encourage his perfectionism, etc. But sometimes, in our efforts to be non-confrontational, we make statements to which it is hard to respond.

I agree with gratefulmom - don't give up. Think about framing your statements in a way in which she can identify with your struggles. (which is also HARD)

Good Luck!

Maryann