I spent the beginning of the IEP reminding them that DS's behavior was a symptom of his Aspeger's, not defiance. I told them I am not against a discipline plan for him whatsoever, but that I wanted to make sure we were all approaching the problem from the same headspace.
After a bit of defensiveness, the meeting went really well. Some of the resource teachers that work with my son made comments about parts of the behavior plan increasing his anxiety levels, which made my day. I think it was overall a very positive meeting. We'll see about the implementation of everything.:)
