Wonderful advice all.
To add: Flylady.net and the housefairy give lots of coaching on how to introduce childre to the happiness of 'home blessing.'
I didn't know about them, and this forum didn't exist when DS13 was exactly like this, and it never occured to me to do as you have done.

Smiles,
Grinity


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