Hi blob,

We share your pain.... cry

If the grip is the problem:
1. We have found some larger pencils that are triangle shaped.
2. We are using the claw (recommended by Grinity here) http://www.drawyourworld.com/Catalog/HTML/claw.html
3. We are also using this type of pencil grip: http://www.amazon.com/Pencil-Grip-C...e-products&qid=1268938789&sr=1-2

For typing:
My kids like this one. It is kind of silly, but they are having fun.
http://www.amazon.com/Disneys-Adven...re&qid=1268938864&sr=8-1-catcorr

Hope this helps...
Mag