Who made the diagnosis of spd and such. You may want to reaqd the Misdiagnosed Child by Webb. Characxteristics of giftedness often overlap with q variety of disorders.
it is hard as a single mom to keep it all together and feel as if you are doing the right thing. Keep logging on. I am guessing by her 12 designation that she is also a young preteen, so you are entering those interesting years, I teach middle school. GOOD LUCK