No Problem, although Ania, this is a public board, and you can quote me anytime.
I'll embellish a bit:
My son was quite "invisible" to many of the School Folks at his old school. I even made up a story in my mind that his giftedness was like a pair of huge, heavy, invisable wings, that most teachers couldn't see. These wings were filled with light, and sparkled so brightly that looking directly at them could be painful. All most people could detect was the way those invisible wings knocked things over and made DS wobble when he walked. Any one could tell he was different, and most people thought he was just clumsy and awkward. Which he was, both at walking, flying and sitting at a desk. His flying was clumbsy because he was young and inexperienced, but I did sometimes observe tremendous grace. But didn't every mother find her own child to be miraculous at times? Obviously there was almost no place to actually practice flying during the school day. Even his parents were mostly concerned that he hold his wings politely in and not knock over the other children. It was sad that he came home so tired and worn out from holding those wings in at an strange angle, but it couldn't be helped. The wings would take care of themselves until the wonderful day when he could use them, right?
Well - things didn't turn out that way, and we got quite an education. I'm grateful to DS for opening my eyes. As sad as it is when a teacher doesn't see the wings, there isn't anything sadder than a winged person who can't see their own wings, but only feels a vauge heavy weight, and see the folk who get mysteriously knocked down. The number one reason for educating ourselves about gifted issues, and unraveling our own pasts, is to be able to hold a mirror up to our children so they can see and understand themselves better, strengths and challenges both.
Love,
Trinity
