You know, I am "Aspergery" too. And that's not just a self-diagnosis.
My mom felt that there was something "wrong" with me from the beginning, but the diagnosis didn't exist back then. I don't think she had any idea how to deal with my issues.
Now, from my perspective as an adult, there is nothing wrong with me. Now I'm maybe atypical, unconventional (or something)
A diagnosis of Asperger's doesn't mean there is something wrong with your son. He will still be the same kid he was before, but the label will help others understand him better and help him develop to his full potential. And I think a lot of amazing strengths can come with this kind of brain!
Getting help
is defending him. I think knowing and having ways to help would have spared me and my family a lot pain when I was growing up. If you feel that you may also have Asperger's traits, you probably know what I mean!
That said, I think it's important to have an outside opinion and not rely completely on the school or the doctors they are referring you to for a diagnosis. Some kids are misdiagnosed, and it's important for you (and for him) to find out what's really going on.
