What about asking the teacher to comment instead on writing that looks especially neat to give positive reinforcement?
I didn't think to ask her to do this, but we do this at home whenever we see it. We practice positive reinforcement as a general rule at home, although, there are times that negative reinforcement (ie. consequences, natural or logical) seems to be more effective. I wonder if he hasn't heard so many "great jobs" and the like that they've lost their luster, so to speak. We try to call attention to and praise his
effort when we see him really trying, doing his best, taking his time, etc., even if the end result isn't great.
I'm not sure why I'm bothered by the thought of people thinking whatever they're going to think, I guess it's because they don't know DS or us (we just moved here) and I always feel like we're back at square one. Anyway, thanks for your thoughts.
