What they don't seem to grasp is that even if there is a hole, it will be quickly filled by these kids....it's never too late.
Yes, you have to look out for your child. And also stress that just b/c something doesn't work for one kid, it may work wonderfully for another. I did the questionnaires with my son in "Re-forming Gifted Education." The results were that he would not like to sit in the back of the class and work independently. He likes discussion and interaction w/ others at his level. He would likely just sit in the back and doodle on the page and daydream.
