And I would try to discuss the fact that people really can't change others. We can control our environments a bit by setting a good example and by removing ourselves from situations we don't like, but we can't really control what other people do.
I think that's VERY important, no5no5. Thank you so much for posting that! I didn't really learn that lesson until I was pushing 40, and it's a BIG lesson that makes life SO much easier once it's learned!
I like the idea of a 2-pronged approach: talk about his feelings and how he might feel about himself at home, but also give her the tools to defend herself against his bullying. That encourages empathy without allowing her to think of herself as a doormat with no power.
Ah! Teamwork!
