This is a great question; DH was definitely skeptical about 'labeling' but the more I talked about what was up with ds6 then7 then8...the more things made sense to him about his own issues from 2nd grade on. He was grade skipped but still things never worked out for him in school (EG+). My opinion is that he certainly needed more than 1 skip and then some.
He absolutely does not want ds being as miserable/bored as he was.

Dh still rolls his eyes when I mention this forum, lol, but the other day he did say how grateful he was that I was really digging into this for the kids.