We've seem a lot of emotional "maturity" since resolving the educational fit issue. I would go so far as to say that it's impossible to evaluate ADHD or emotional disorders when the educational fit is bad. But I'm not an expert, it's just my "Mom-on Sense."
I like this book for the parenting end of "hard to handle kids"
http://www.explosivechild.com/http://www.explosivechild.com/books/index.htmlChronically inflexible! That term makes me smile. I think this world needs more kids and adults who are chronically inflexible on the inside, and have the skills to manage it on the outside.
It's so easy to get confused. That's why I say, stick with what you know for sure, and can fix, for a start.
HTH,
Trinity
