I doubt that I do any more advocating for DS than most parents. As SPG says, advocacy goes along with parenting and all kids end up in situations that are not well suited to them and need adjustments.
I had a mother who advocated for me a lot and it was a big help. But in retrospect, I really wish she had let me find my own voice and stand up for myself more. I didn't really learn how to do these things until college. I have spent much more time coaching DS in how to stand up for himself and ask for what he needs than actually advocating for him. He has a temperment that responded well to the coaching and these days he pretty much gets what he needs from school and outside of school without much help from me.
