With your DD I would first try to move these conversations away from bedtime so she doesn't have the option of just saying "good night" and putting a pillow over her head. Maybe take her to lunch and have a written agenda like a business meeting. Discuss the pros and cons of the different math options, what color to paint her room and what kind of cookies she might want to bake. It sounds weird but in a more adult context she may come out of the parent-child dynamic of leaving the decisions to you. Have her state what each option would look like. ie If you take class A it would mean not taking class B - would you be ok missing that or is that more important to you? Or focus down the road - If you want to be able to do X you will need class B. Would you rather be able to do that later or take class A now. Or what would be available to her if she didn't do the math option. "How would you feel about focusing on Marine Biology?" (or Anthropology? Or Greek Mythology? or Architecture?, etc, etc, etc) So she sees various options rather than the binary math or no? Does that make sense? Give her ownership of the decision so she knows her input has value. Then maybe give her an either or choice so she HAS to state a preference.
Just a few random thoughts. Good luck!
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