Yep, that's what we're here for... there is no time to waste being frustrated and sad, so please allow us to sponge that up and blot it away with a knowing nod and BTDT pat on the back.

Moving right along...

It seems you've just learned the school's level of familiarity with acceleration is nil and non-existent. So you are progressing through a list. You've got your work cut out for you. But we are here to help and we are up to the task. Be sure to make your your own custom list, with input from your spouse.

Following the basic advocacy advice about meetings, you may wish to sent a polite and positive follow-up e-mail summarizing your conversation with the gifted school. In that e-mail, you may wish to link some resources regarding acceleration.

Be sure to read up on BTDT pros and cons of acceleration with your spouse... be sure you are both in agreement... discuss frequently over time... ensure you remain in agreement for all advocacy efforts.

Have you read your State laws and each schools policies? Going forward, be aware that these may change over time.