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I am wondering if the solution for executive issue functions is to find a school that emphasizes academics and challenge, but is light on requirements for executive functioning skills? Perhaps a school that uses textbooks and notebooks (instead of worksheets and internet printouts) and emphasizes deep learning and end-of-quarter/semester assignments/quizzes versus continuous testing and homework. I am open to other suggestions. If you were in my shoes what will you do?